I can’t believe that in a few months it will be four years since I was a bride and planning my own wedding. I still remember that day as if it happened to day. The excitement, the emotions and all the joy of finally being married. It was one of the best days of my life. Today I thought I would share with you what I learned from being a bride and the advice I share with all my couples, to help them, relax, enjoy and cherish the wedding planning process and their special day.
1. At the end of the day you’re getting married and that’s all that matters. At the end of the day you won’t care about that little details that went wrong. Today is the day you’ve been waiting for and you’re marrying the love of your life and that’s all that will matter and that’s all you’ll be thinking about. No matter how important it may seem that the menu cards have a perfect bow tied around them… On your wedding day it just won’t matter. On your wedding day as long as you get to say I do and you have a good time you couldn’t care less that your bridesmaid forgot her shoes and had to wear a different color shoe from the rest of the girls. You won’t care that the caterers forgot that you ordered vegetables for dinner… (this happened to me). In the bigger scope of the day all of the little gritty details (like the bows you so carefully tied to each menu card will not be seen because your mother in law forgot she was bringing them) won’t matter and best of all no one will know what went wrong or what was missing.
2. Hire a coordinator. I didn’t and now that I’ve worked with them I can see how absolutely valuable they are. Even if you don’t have it in your budget try to squeeze in a day coordinator. They’ll give you some much more needed peace of mind. They are there to ensure your day runs smoothly and to make sure you get down the aisle. They will take care of all the little things that might come up and could stress you out on your big day. They can take care of things that youwould have to delegate to friends and family. Because they’re experts, they can handle the little problems and frustrations that might arise with ease which will leave you to enjoy your big day.
3. Invest in photography. Now I’m not just saying this because I’m a photographer. Even if you don’t hire me I beg youto hire a photographer you’re comfortable with and whose work you’ve seen and you love. Photography is truly the one thing you’ll have left from your wedding. I still have my wedding dress and shoes but I will never wear them again. My bouquet’s were wilted by the time I got back home form my honeymoon and thank God my mom saved the top tier of my wedding cake or I ‘wouldn’t have enjoyed any of it. All I have left from that beautiful day are the memories I have and my photographs. They are the one piece of that day I’ll be able to share and experience over and over again.
4. This is your day, take a stand for what YOU want. Everyone will have an opinion about how your wedding should be, the traditions you should have, and the music you should play. Weddings are a group celebration and a right of passage for family and friends so it’s normal for everyone to feel some type of ownership towards your wedding. But, at the end of the day make sure that whatever you decide to do is what you or your fiance want. Do not try to please everyone. If you don’t want to have flower girls don’t have them, if you don’t want to do the garter toss don’t do it. If you don’t want to invite all of your moms church friends don’t invite them (also a personal experience). Don’t let tradition or your family and friends stand in the way of how you envisioned your wedding.
5. Take the time to savor the moment. It all goes by so fast so enjoy your day and have fun. Don’t get so wrapped up in the details that you forget why you’re there. YOU’RE GETTING MARRIED!